So it is safe to say I didn’t not complete my task of going on 10 dates in 30 days. But I did go on a Date#4, which was with this nerdy looking white dude. We had dinner, it was quick and more like catching up with a high school buddy. (Date #5 & #6 were cancelled for different reasons and never had a chance to make up)
Fast forwarded to January 2013…
I don’t know if I am turning into a prude…but a lot of things men have been saying to me lately, whether joking or serious, has been turning me off.
Yes, I was voted class flirt in high school. I liked to smile, like putting smiles on other people’s faces & making them feel good. But I don’t even flirt like I use to because it seems to me that men think that’s an invitation for kissing or some type of sex.
Maybe it was all easier when I was younger or maybe because I was a virgin and the guys I hung out with knew I wasn’t given a damn thing up (not even kissing) or maybe they just had more respect for me. I just feel the older I get, the more dumb men are when it comes to interacting with women. Or is it that these women are letting men get away with so much that they think they can do it with every women.
NOTE TO MEN: Just because I am not a virgin anymore does not mean I want to have sex with you or do anything sexual with you. Just because I smile at you, flirt, talk, go out to dinner with you, DOES NOT MEAN I WANT SEX!!!
-A friend from college who I didn’t do a damn thing with, decided to text me and somehow later on in the message decided to ask me to send him a topless picture of myself. Really dude, don’t ask me where this came from. I haven’t seen this guy since college, he was only a friend (Yes I might have flashed my itty bitty’s to him once when I was 19, but I was just being a little bold at the time), and HE IS MARRIED. He was flirting hard via text. I don’t remember what I replied back but I know he never replied back because he was so inappropriate.
-Or the young dude who told me if I wasn’t given it up, he could get it from someone else. This was on a first date and we hadn’t even made it to the restaurant yet. Of course I walked away and the date never happened.
-The guy I was suppose to go on Date #5 with texted me last week, wanted to finally go out with me. So of course I said sure….but later on in the text messaging conversation it started getting weird. He started asking me when was the last time I was tested and if I was a good kisser. He later on called me and told me that from my picture, I looked like someone that he would like to have casual sex with. Mind you this dude has never had a real conversation with me, knows nothing about me, and has never met me. He also said he wanted to go to dinner near his house so that if we had chemistry I could sleep over. Yeah, I was pretty much done with the conversation and needless to say, I did NOT go on a date with him and his number will be deleted.
-Or how about the men that I have hung out with in the past who have tried to pull out their penis’ and put my hand on it or stick it in my face …UGH!!!! NO, thank you! I will say it here and now…YES!!! I am scared of the Dick. But not in the way you think. Why would I want to play with something when I don’t even know where its been or what it might have. If it is not mine to have and keep for my pleasure, why would I want to share it with whomever else you have on your list.
Fellas I get it, you have a penis and you want sex…Who doesn’t want sex? I know I do, but I want more than sex. I want a relationship, love, companion, commitment, trust, loyalty, conversation, monogamy….all that good stuff. So are you going to bring all of that to the table, or are you just going to bring sex, cause if that’s the case I will pass.
P.S. I am not saying you can’t flirt. Its just light flirting is great. Compliment me on my smile, eyes, laugh, actually get to know me. Brining up sex from the jump is a great way to get me to not talk to you again.
I just had to get that off my chest,
Posted on January 31, 2013, in Dating/ Relationships, Life as I know it! and tagged asian me, asian men, black women, commitment, Dating, dating diaries, dating in your 30's, girls, interracial dating, kissing, love, men, monogamy, penis, prude, relationships, sex, teenage love, virgin. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.